We are friends (PART I of my GP essay)

i shd have written this entry last week but was kinda lazy so here i am now. Things have not gone well and and i wish to say a few words regarding them

Last week, i met our dearest Weixiong along the way home. He has grown taller (much taller than xy), became fitter and looks matured in every sense. Then i started thinking of the days we 2 actually walked home together all the time. Then i started thinking when did we stop doing that. It makes me wonder why some friends actually stop meeting up all of a sudden. Is it becox we suddenly have our differences? Is it becox of a conflict? Or is it becox due to that conflict, our pride prevents us from reconciling with one another? Im sure he still enjoys soccer, or even mahjong, so what then stops us from meeting up with him?

They say that friends come and go but i say that friends only go if u let them go. Friendship does not just pop out from somewhere all of a sudden and remains there forever. It requires effort to maintain it, compromise and mutual understanding. Normal gatherings like soccer, supper meetups, etc. are essential for such bonds to continue to last. They are like the bridges to what will then consequently form the different friendship status. The three i wish to talk about are these: normal friends, close friends and true(best) friends.

Normal friends are more like acquintances. You know them only superficially and talk only when necessary. You dont and wont talk much becox there isnt a common topic and are not familiar with that person's personality. When displeased by that person, you will choose to distance yourself from him or her rather than confront him or her.
Close friends are friends whom you hang out frequently. You share many common interests and topics and always seek to have fun with one another's company. Though sometimes there are a few disagreements here and there, they are settled quickly becox you cherish the friendship and thus you make compromises. You wont hesitate to confront that person if he or she steps on ur toes as it takes two to make a friendship work.
True(best) friends are very rare. They are the ones who will dare to fuck you upside down when he or she feels that you are doing sth wrong instead of keeping quiet and letting them continue. Whatever they do they will think of your situation, and they will try to change it for your own good even if that makes them the devil, even if that makes you hate them. They are the ones who will place you above themselves, who will be there when you needed them most, and are also the ones who weathered the most storms with you. They are the ones whom you will think of the moment you are in trouble, but thats becox they are the most dependable.

Now, ask yourselves honestly, how many close or true friends do you have? Are they uninfluenced by the touchy subject that is known to be "money"? It is very ironic, and in fact very depressing, to let a simple gift to a birthday boy or girl be laden with so much unhappiness and disagreements. It defeats the purpose of the gift and mocks the meaning behind it. A birthday gift should be given willingly, not asked commercially thru an sms or its likes. And even if it has to be done that way, it should be carried out very carefully, and definitely not with cold bluntness. Money is not a very nice subject to be discussed among friends, esp. if you are just normal friends, and even sometimes close friends can be affected by it. If you are cold and blunt, then its only natural that you receive what you give. Like i said, friendship takes effort to build and maintain. Unless you are referring to true friends whom you can be directly blunt with, otherwise you have to be socially ept, as simple as that.

I shall end off the part 1 of my GP essay here. 4.30am liao la, tired sia. To be continued..